Dear Concerned Friend,

It sounds like you are a born-again believer. What bothers me the most is your friend’s professing to be a believer and those who are NOT believers see how she is acting and speaking. To me that is the most disturbing. I’m sure she prays and when we pray it says in Mark 11:25-26: Whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses. These are strong words from our Lord Jesus Christ Himself.

Sounds to me like your relationship is one-sided already. You cannot change her but the Lord can through you by just loving her and praying for her. As a believer we must always stand on the word of God and the truth it holds. We do not have to listen to foul language or bad things against people who are living their life in darkness to what the word of God says.

Is your friend saved? Luke says in 16:15: And He (Jesus) said to them, You are those who justify yourselves before men, but God knows your hearts…..Jesus also said in Matthew 12:33: Either make the tree good and its fruit good, or else make the tree bad and its fruit bad; for a tree is known by its fruit.

Remember, prayer changes things. You are pretty sure she loves Jesus; just not some of the people He died on the cross for. That should keep you fervent in your prayer life and until that changes with her, simply refuse to listen to foul language and foul talk of others by changing the subject. Let her know you do not want to talk about that subject, or simply walk away at that time. You are commanded to love her where she is with the Lord and pray she gets where she is supposed to be with the Lord. Pray blind eyes will open to the truth!