Missing out?

Dear Judy, I don’t do Facebook or really any social media. Many of my friends are often talking about what they read on Facebook and how they knew things about people and how they keep up with so many people. I sometimes feel I am missing out on something, like I’m an outsider. But I just don’t have time (nor desire!) for it. What do you think?

Dear Not Missing Out!

I too am not on Facebook. Does it have good in it? Yes! Was it intended for good? I do believe so. I simply do not have time to spend on Facebook. I also have seen people use it as a sounding board, or to give their opinion on politics, ethics, and so on. It riles people up and causes division and strife.

Truly Facebook has been abused and misused. It is used to bully others who would not have been bullied if they had not been on it at all. I also believe it should be monitored more closely and where children are concerned, not be on it at all.

I know people who have to get up in the middle of the night to check their texts or Facebook. That is an ADDICTION! I was once addicted to alcohol. I needed that drink and then more drinks to get through the day. But deep down, I needed something far beyond that. I read the scripture in John 3:16: For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. I knew I was in the world and I was so perishing because of addiction! I wanted to be free and I wanted life! So I am now addicted to living my life for the One who gave His for me, JESUS!

An addiction is to have a very strong desire or need for something. I suppose if a person can control his use of Facebook and Facebook does not control him, then I do not see anything wrong with it. If you ever decide to use social media or Facebook, remember what I tell people: Say it; forget it. Write it; regret it! Always keep Jesus above it all! When one uses Facebook, think of what Jesus would do and say. Hope this helps.

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