Dear At Odds,

You did not tell me how long you have been married but the principals of overcoming are the same no matter. How wonderful you both have a walk with the Lord. With those words used it sounds like you know what that means to have a walk with the Lord. When we get to expecting too much and looking at faults in one another instead of assets it will be a downhill pull. You must slow down and put Jesus back in the middle of your marriage and first in your lives. It sounds like SELF has risen on both of you!

Marriage is not 50 50 giving it is 100 percent and 100 percent giving. Agape love expects nothing in return. Stop and look at why you married in the first place. Circumstances in life tend to take from us and from our marriage if we allow it. Sad to say the church has as many divorces as the world has. That should not be. Our Lord can work in our marriage if we will ask Him to help us. Just remember He will change both of you individually.

The most important thing to remember it is the devils job to kill your marriage. Steal the joy from your marriage. John 10:10 The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly. The scripture also says in Ephesians 6:12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. Notice both of these show us that it is not our spouse but the devil that is working through them to get to us. With you writing me I am assuming you want your marriage to work so you are the one who needs to get the battle back to the spiritual where it belongs. Both of you must put Jesus first then one another with that in order then you can hold hands and pray and know where the attacks are coming from.

Choose to put your will with God’s will who wants your marriage full of trust in Him which will cause it to be full of joy. Choose to encourage and uplift one another with words that bless not expecting a return. Bad times do come but standing together with Christ your marriage will make it through.